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Wedding Chair Covers

Rant alert! Wedding chair covers ~ when did they become a thing? Why do people have them? Should you put them in the FIB? What is a FIB?

I will attempt to answer some of these questions, but first let me just say, if you are going to have chair covers do them properly – like this! Make sure they add a real WOW to your wedding.

When did they become a thing? 

I have no idea! What I do think I know is why they became a thing – because of scruffy chairs that needed to be hidden!

Let’s be honest here, weddings are big business for many venues and many venues are a bit shabby with tired carpets and furniture. So, slapping some elegant covers on chairs and using beautiful drapes and fairy lights can improve a room very quickly. The problem, as I see it, is that the venue have found this is great way to charge every couple for the service.


Why do people have them? 

The chair covers make everything look clean and uniform. The addition of a sash gives you the opportunity to inject colour and maybe some bling, but that can be at considerable cost. I took the picture below at the recent Chilworth Manor Wedding Fayre and I got really excited because the venue has really good, neutral coloured, comfortable seats that didn’t need covering. That means you might have more to spend on really beautiful things like flowers, the lovely arrangement here was provided by our friend Carole from the Flower Stables.

Wedding chair covers


Should you put them in the FIB and what is the FIB?

OK first, the FIB … I’m going to call it the “Forget It Bucket” – but that’s not what the “F” really stands for. I first heard the phrase in the VERY excellent Bridechilla Podcast by Aleisha McCormack. I highly recommend this podcast, in fact I’d go as far as to say it’s essential listening BUT it does come with the warning that Aleisha is not for those who are easily offended by profanities. One of Aliesha’s jingles is “The Bridechilla Podcast, telling chair covers to get f****d since 2014”.  I’ll be posting more about BrideChilla soon but please check it out.


In Conclusion

A covered chair with a sash can look really elegant. However, once someones been sat in it for a while the sash often moves and it’s not quite as tidy. Badly tied sashes often come untied and end up being a slip/trip hazard on the floor. I know some venues where the same chairs are used for the ceremony in one room, then moved to another room for the wedding breakfast and then moved around again for the evening party, often the sashes need redoing several times. However they can be a good way of getting your colour theme into the day.

My personal opinion is book a venue with chairs that don’t need covers but if you do want, or need, to have covers do them well, create something special. Here’s a beautiful venue dressed to make it look even more gorgeous. It’s the Hampshire Barn at Norton Park (click here) and it was dressed by my friend Suzanne Tie The Knot Events (click here). The table cloths and sashes really take the room to another level while maintaining a clean, tidy feel.

Wedding Chair Covers


September weddings

Choosing Your First Dance

Following my recent post about requests for your wedding party (click here) I promised a blog about Choosing Your First Dance.

Some couples know exactly what they want for their first dance, others haven’t a clue. Either is no problem, I’m always happy to help or just to do my best to make the first dance stress-free and memorable for all the right reasons.

What won’t happen at one of my weddings is a mumbled introduction with nobody knowing what’s going on. I’ll do my best to make sure everyone knows exactly what is happening and that all the important guests (mums etc) are in the room with a good view of what’s about to happen.

These days I often make special edits of songs to reduce the length or sometimes extend them, I’ve also made first dance “mash-up’s” combining several songs together. These are the kinds of services a professional DJ will offer their couples – I’ve also seen other local DJ’s asking if any other DJ’s can do this for them!

Some couples have amazing plans for their first dance, others just want to do a slow rotate for a verse and a chorus before their friends and family are invited to join them. I’ll make sure we make a plan and know exactly what’s going to happen and how to make the most of the opportunity so that the photographer gets some great images.

I mentioned the DJ Event Planner lists (click here) and they produced this one for First Dances based on data from their DJs …

Artist Song Title
1 Ed Sheeran Perfect
2 Kodaline The One
3 John Legend All Of Me
4 Ed Sheeran Thinking Out Loud
5 Elvis Presley Can’t Help Falling In Love
6 James Arthur Say You Won’t Let Go
7 Christina Perri A Thousand Years
8 Etta James At Last
9 Ellie Goulding How Long Will I Love You
10 Ed Sheeran Tenerife Sea
11 Ben E. King Stand By Me
12 Lonestar Amazed
13 Al Green Let’s Stay Together
14 Jason Mraz I Won’t Give Up
15 Lifehouse You And Me
16 Shania Twain From This Moment On
17 Goo Goo Dolls Iris
18 Kenny G Songbird
19 Nathan Sykes Over And Over Again
20 Snow Patrol Chasing Cars

The list is an interesting mix of tracks, many of which have become wedding staples. It may be a good place to start if you don’t already have an “our tune” that you want to use and are looking for inspiration.

Choosing Your First Dance is a very personal thing – every couple are different, I always do my best to make the most of this traditional wedding day highlight.

The first dance is just one of the big moments of the day when music is important … stay tuned for another post about wedding music soon 😉


What a wedding is really about?

What a wedding is really about … what is a wedding all about?

Now there’s a topic we could talk about for days but, to me, it’s a moment in time when we celebrate the fact that two people met, fell in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together.

How they choose to celebrate is surely their choice?

I think it’s fair to say that often guys just want to give the woman of their dreams the day she wants. What if they disagree and what about others like the parents, should their feelings be considered in the planning?

My daughter got married in April last year. It was a beautiful day and her mum and I, and her husbands parents, now have many fantastic memories to cherish. We all had a great day and of course we ‘re still talking about it.

THE Dress

However, I see lots of posts on social media from couples planning their weddings and dealing with all kinds of family agro! It’s often very sad. As a wedding planning expert, I like to offer advice but some of their problems just seem impossible to resolve … and then I saw this …

This is a clip from The Steve TV Show from October last year that came up on my FaceBook feed a few days ago and got me thinking. The Steve Show is an American daytime TV show, it’s been around in various shapes and forms for many years. It often has great insights into human nature.

James Sexton’s thoughts really resonated with me – what do you think?

“Do not let the first time all the people you love be in a room at the same time be your funeral”

James Sexton ~ October 2018

What a wedding is really about … well I stand by the description I gave at the start of this post. If you are planning your big day please keep in mind everybody who’s coming. This will probably be the biggest party you ever throw (unless you win the lottery), so don’t rush into it.

A great place to start is with my Your WOW Wedding Guide. Use this form to request a copy

The picture of us above and this one were both taken in the minute before I walked Amy down the aisle for the ceremony 😉


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How long does it take to plan a wedding?

How long does it take to plan a wedding? This post was prompted by an article in Brides Magazine entitled How To Plan Your Wedding In 30 days (click here to read the article). 30 days seems to be the minimum notice you need to register your wedding. My research leads me to think it’s actually 28 days (Click here) for a civil marriage, but it’s also down to availability of Registrars etc.

I was also thinking about how long does it take to plan a wedding because my couples usually seem to book between a year and 18 months ahead of their wedding. This seems to be fairly normal now. When Ce and I got married a million years ago (that’s a slight exaggeration, keep an eye on this blog for a post about our Anniversary next month) we got engaged on Boxing Day and married the follow August – eight months . As you may have read, our daughter got married back in April following their engagement the July before – just under nine months.

Planning a long time ahead is good because it gives you time to save and think – but is it too long to think? Why do couples often plan so far ahead? I think it may have been down to the fact the “best venues” get booked ages in advance – but now there are lots of great venues and also weddings on any day of the week have become acceptable when it used to just be Saturdays.

So, how long does it take to plan a wedding?  I guess the answer is between 30 days and … years! It’s really up to you how long. There are so many options and things to think about, some couples will just want to be married because they want to commit to each other and start the next chapter of their lives. Others will wait while they save to have their dream wedding – what will you do? How about this Autumn?

If you’d like free advice on the various options and a free copy of my “WOW Wedding Guide” please get in touch – email

One final thought … weddings aren’t about stuff, they are about two people in love – often couples who plan a long engagement seem to add lots of stuff to their wedding day. Beware of adopting too many things you see on Pinterest, sometimes less is more! I’ll write a post on this soon.

Woodlands Lodge Wedding DJ

Don’t Tell The Bride

Don’t Tell The Bride is back! The series where the Bridegroom must choose every detail of his wedding, from venue to cake to wedding dress is back on a different channel.

OK, I know it’s ridiculous and you’ve got to remember that are making it for TV so it would be really boring if the Bridegroom knew what his Bride would like and gave her exactly that.

E4 is now the home of Don’t Tell The Bride and I believe they have done an 18 episode series! In fact they all seem to be viewable NOW, and not just the new ones – ALL the episodes ever made! So if you want to binge watch you can! CLICK HERE to go to 4 Catch Up

The first episode, this Carl & Rebecca, was screened last week and you can see it on All 4 whenever you want.

Here’s a taste of the new Don’t Tell The Bride

If you do The Twitters you can also go here

Here’s details of how you could take part from their Twitter feed …

Would you trust your partner to plan the biggest day of your life?

Don’t Tell the Bride has eloped to E4 and is looking for couples who want to tie the knot!

Could you plan a surprise wedding with £14,000 in 3 weeks? Or would you trust your partner to plan the biggest day of your life?

TO APPLY, click on this link: (opens in a new window)

Don’t forget to attach a picture and a quick video of yourselves!

Your application will be received by a member of Renegade Pictures and they will contact you directly if successful. Renegade Pictures will process and hold your personal data in accordance with the Data Protection Act and their privacy policy.

Programmes like this are a great way to get you thinking about ideas that are totally about YOU and what you both want. Sometimes they might inspire you, sometimes they might scare you and sometimes they’ll just make you laugh (or cry!). Just remember that are making it for TV and they don’t let the truth get in the way of a crazy story.

If you’d like help creating a wedding that is unique email me for a link to my “Your WOW Wedding” booklet and look out for my “Creating Your WOW Wedding” evenings coming up this Autumn. Email

Congratulations on your engagement

Get creative at YOUR Wedding – Shaun’s Conscience a week later!

So what’s happened with Shaun’s Conscience a week later and how can YOU get creative at your wedding? If you have no idea what I’m talking about look at the previous entries on my Blog (CLICK HERE).

One week ago at 3pm on Friday 7th July, Shaun’s Conscience (a video I shot at Emma and Shaun’s wedding in 2014) was featured on the LAD Bible page on FaceBook. Here we are a week later and the video has been seen 4,218,155 times!

get creative at your wedding

Shaun’s Conscience has also prompted thousands of comments – almost four and a half thousand so far – some have been damming, others full of praise.

It’s had over 23,000 likes, over 7,000 Haha’s and over 700 loves and it’s been shared 7,425 times in just seven days / one week!

Shaun’s Conscience may or not be for you and your guests but it proves the power of the “Your WOW Wedding” philosophy that I promote where I encourage you to Weave yourselves into your wedding, get Others involved and explain Why you made those choices. If you’d like to know more take a look at the bookcase on my website – CLICK HERE.

I’d really encourage you to get creative at your wedding and I’d be happy to give you advice even if you don’t book me to play at your big day. Email me NOW

September weddings

Paul The Party DJ a.k.a The WOW Wedding Guy

Paul The Party DJ is now also known as The WOW Wedding Guy ~ the same guy (me!) with two separate services. Some couples will want to use both, now others can now benefit too.

The Party DJ is the award winning wedding DJ and MC who now only does a maximum of twenty unique, elegant and fun weddings each year. I am now only accepting all-day wedding bookings and a few other parties. I don’t do any events where I can’t meet the organisers in advance so that I understand exactly what they want. By doing this I am able to give every event the care and attention to detail it really deserves. CLICK HERE to see My Promise ~ YOUR guarantee.

The WOW Wedding GuyThe WOW Wedding Guy is the award winning wedding expert who wants to help EVERY COUPLE create a wedding that is focused on what’s important. By hosting my “Creating Your WOW Wedding” and “WOW Bridegroom” events, along with my new “WOW Speakers Club”, I will be sharing my experience and ideas with even more couples planning their big day. To get your free access to my “Your WOW Wedding” booklet just email

The new logo was created by my go-to-guy for graphics and website work ~ Deon from Deon Designs (CLICK HERE to go to his website)

Paul, The WOW Wedding Guy will be hosting his next event on Thursday 6th July at Gray Manor. For more information and to reserve your places please email

September weddings

Just to say … I’m back and these two great events are happening!

Just to say … I’m back and these two great events are happening!

I’m just about to rush off for a meeting but I just wanted to post a quick update to get a couple of things on your radar.

When I say I’m back that’s because we’ve just had a fabulous break away in Fuerteventura (I don’t want to make you too jealous so I won’t post a picture … no, I’m a horrible person, so here’s one!)

So it’s back to work now and I’m preparing for two excellent events in the next few days

First, on Sunday …
Brockenhurst Village Hall wedding fair. It’s FREE entry and there will be plenty of great wedding experts on hand to chat to. I understand there will also be a welcome drink and a goodie bag. Brockenhurst Village Hall is in Highwood Road and the postcode is SO42 7RY.

Then on Wednesday evening I’m hosting another of my “Your The Man” Bridegroom’s workshops, which isn’t really a workshop at all. It’s just an evening for the gentleman when I run through their responsibilities and help them with great ideas so that everybody thinks they are a “top bloke”. I could tell you more but then I’d have to kill you – so, if you know anyone who might be interested (even if they aren’t my client and don’t need a DJ) tell them to email me and I’ll tell them more.

I actually haver lots to tell you but I’ll get to the other stuff later I just wanted to let you know about these two great events before I went to my meeting ~ Cheers! x

Next Tuesday ~ Reserve Your Places NOW!

Tuesday night is my “Creating Your WOW Wedding” event at Ampfield Golf Club so reserve your places now  It’s these events which earned me my “Contribution toe the Wedding Industry” award last year.  Basically I run through a typical wedding time-line explaining how to use the ideas from the WOW guide. If you have never seen my “Your WOW Wedding” email me now for a link ~

Heres what Hannah, one of my previous Brides, had to say to say about the “Creating Your WOW Wedding” evening at Ampfield …

“Paul invited us to his ‘WOW’ wedding event at Ampfield Golf course, which was amazing! We took our parents along too and we were all blown away. ”

“I think what really struck us was Paul was so passionate about how people felt, having that great feeling, not just us as the bride and groom, but family and friends, which was so important to us.”

To find out more about Hannah and Dan’s wedding CLICK HERE

Reserve your places now ~ email

Doors open at 7pm for a 7:30 start and we’ll be done by 9:30, even with a break in the middle.

What have you got to lose? It’s a no-brainer! Tickets are just £10 per couple (including any guests you want to bring) and all that £10 will go to the Countess Mountbatten Hospice Charity, even if you claim a refund using my full money back guarantee! All the details are elsewhere on the blog (just scroll down) and in this video.

Remember, this isn’t a sales pitch for me, this is just about helping you to understand how you’ll feel on your wedding day, how to make the most of every moment, and the evening comes with a full-money-back guarantee!

Email me and reserve your places now.

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Tuesday 21st February ~ Creating Your WOW Wedding

Save the date ~ Tuesday 21st February

It’s less than two weeks to my next ‘Creating Your WOW Wedding’ evening when I run through the typical wedding day timeline to explain how to incorporate the principles in the ‘Your WOW Wedding’ booklet into your big day. The evening is being held at Ampfield Golf Club (SO51 9BQ), the doors will open at 7pm for a 7:30 start. Holding these events was a major factor in my receiving of the “Contribution to the Wedding Industry” award recent, these events are open to all couples whether they want me to DJ their wedding or not.

Watch this short video for more …

I’ll share tips on how your wedding can easily become a ‘WOW Wedding’
Things like …
* How to set the tone for your wedding day before you even enter the ceremony
* Sharing your Love Story
* How to make sure the dance floor is packed

What have you got to lose? It’s a no-brainer! Tickets are just £10 per couple (including any guests you want to bring) and all that £10 will go to the Countess Mountbatten Hospice Charity, even if you claim a refund using my full money back guarantee! 

If you have any questions please let me know. 

Oh, and if you haven’t read the original ‘Your WOW Wedding’ booklet email me now

I really hope to see you for a great night on Tuesday 21st February at Ampfield Golf Club ~ reserve your places now, please email